How I Cope with my Untreated Anxiety

Over the last few years, I’ve seen a drastic change in my mood. When I was younger, I was calm. It was nearly impossible to make me angry and I was known as the “peace keeper” not only in my family, but also in my friend group.

Now, I find myself nearly constantly angry. My friends have admitted that there are times where they don’t feel comfortable talking to me. Family members have reached out to tell me that they’re concerned.

I’ve made a complete 180 in my personality. I used to be empathetic and understanding, but now I’m apathetic and quick to anger. What happened?

I spoke with my doctor and found that untreated anxiety mixed with a sleep disorder is the cause. As I’m waiting to do more tests, here’s what I’m doing to help myself cope day-to-day:

1. Meditation — I take 3–5 minutes every day to sit still and close my eyes. During this time, I acknowledge my thoughts and then let them go. I acknowledge my feelings (pent up anger and building stress/anxiety) and let them go. I am training my mind to be present and not to hold on to destructive emotions. This is a new practice for me, but I’m picking it up fairly quickly using free guided meditation apps.

2. Eating a healthy diet — No more fast food. No more salty snacks. No more sweets. Eating unhealthy foods can lead to a multitude of physical and mental health issues. They can throw everything out of whack. My diet is now filled with produce and fiber, protein and nutrients. I’m keeping track of everything using free nutrition and calorie counting apps.

3. Exercising — Taking 30 minutes out of every day to exercise will make a world of difference to your mental health. We’ve all seen Legally Blonde. Exercising releases endorphins that make you happy. Happy people just don’t murder people. If, like me, you can’t afford to go to the gym, there are tons of exercises that you can do at home without equipment. I find my workouts mainly through YouTube.

4. Saying no — A lot of us have the issue of taking on too much to help out our friends and family. This can add stress to your life and make your anxiety so much worse. Keep your physical and mental health at the forefront of your mind and don’t take on projects that you can’t fit into your already busy schedule. I know that saying no causes anxiety, but focus on the amount of anxiety you’re saving by not taking on more than you can handle.

5. Verbalizing boundaries — When you get overwhelmed and need a second, let the people around you know. When you need a night off from socializing, take that night and let the people around you now. If something is giving you anxiety, let the people around you know. Your loved ones are just that, people who love you. They will help you when you ask for help and they will leave you alone if you need to be left alone — you just need to tell them.

Anxiety is a tricky thing to deal with. It prevents you from doing normal, everyday activities and can cause you to participate unknowingly and/or unwillingly in toxic behavior. I implore you to seek treatment if your anxiety has gotten as bad as mine has. In the meantime, though, practice some self-care and set boundaries.



Creative writer. Review Writer for Broadcaster on Glimesh (vaughn_hellspawn).

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Vaughn Johnston

Vaughn Johnston

Creative writer. Review Writer for Broadcaster on Glimesh (vaughn_hellspawn).